This Is Us

This Is Us

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Our lives are full of relationships – best friends, frenemies, spouses, exes, neighbors, co-workers – and those relationships can be complicated. So how do we have good ones? And get over bad ones?

During our series, “This is Us”, we’ll discover keys to cultivating strong and thriving relationships in every area of our lives.


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Week 1 - Real Love

Love Is A Verb General
Andy Stanley

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Love Is A Verb
Andy Stanley

We hear of the divorce rate and wonder: is it possible for two people to stay happy together forever? The only thing required for falling in love is a pulse, but it’s never been more difficult to stay in love. In this message, we’ll hear from Andy Stanley about what Jesus says is the foundation for enduring relationships.

Goal of this Week

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is the hard part. This week we will talk about if it’s possible to stay in love and what the key is.

Conversation Starter

Think about a person you fell in love with. What made you fall in love?

Discussion Questions

  1. Why do you think there are so many matchmaking organizations in this country? Do you think it makes it easier or harder to fall in love?
  2. In John 13:34, Jesus identifies love as a verb, not a noun. What are some differences between feeling love and doing love?
  3. What does mutual submission look like in a romantic relationship? What can get in the way of that?

Closing Activity

Think about at least one practical way that you can practice making love a verb to someone this week. Identify who you want to love and one way you will take a step to proactively love them.

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank you for your love for us. Thank you Jesus, for your ultimate example of submitting your life for those you loved, us. We ask that you would give us the grace and the strength to love those around us like You have loved us. We pray that as we make love a verb, we would experience more of Your love for us. In Jesus name, Amen.

The Right Person Myth Young Adult/Single
Andy Stanley

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The Right Person Myth
Andy Stanley

We were made for relationships, but successful relationships don’t happen accidentally. Often, culture teaches us if we marry the right person, everything will be all right. But that gets us into trouble. In this message, Andy Stanley gives us a list of behaviors that will help lead to successful relationships, and he asks us the important question: Are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for?

Goal of this Week

Are you the person the person you’re looking for is looking for? In this message, Andy Stanley breaks down the myth that says we are supposed to find the right person by challenging us to become the right person instead.

Conversation Starter

Think of current movies, music, or TV shows. What would you say are some current rules in our culture regarding love, sex, and dating?

Discussion Questions

  1. What is the right person myth? Do you agree that it is a myth?
  2. How have you seen this way of thinking play out in relationships?
  3. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. These are the characteristics that build successful relationships. Which characteristic is most difficult for you? Which do you value the most in others?

Closing Activity

Becoming the person the person you’re looking for is looking for takes hard work and real effort. But you don’t want to find yourself married and unprepared. What is one thing you can do this week to help yourself become the right person?

Closing Prayer

God, thank you that you not only created us for relationships, but that you want us to have successful and fulfilling relationships. Help us to let go of the right person myth and the search to find the right person. And as we take steps to become the right person, we ask that your love would be what guides us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Week 2 - Forgiveness

Forgiveness Married
Shawn Johnson

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Forgiveness
Shawn Johnson

For any marriage to be successful, it must consist of two forgivers. If we want to have a marriage that lasts, forgiveness must be the foundation. We will not be able to experience all that God has for us in life and in our marriage if we do not practice forgiveness.

Goal of this Week

This week we will discover the foundational characteristic of every successful marriage: forgiveness.

Conversation Starter

If you could go back and give yourself one piece of marriage advice on your wedding day, what would it be?

Discussion Questions

  1. We don’t have to learn how to withhold forgiveness from others. It seems to come naturally, why is that?
  2. Shawn said, “Not forgiving someone outside of your marriage will cause all sorts of problems inside of your marriage.” How has unforgiveness affected your marriage?
  3. Think of a time you have been forgiven by your spouse. What impact did that have on your marriage?

Closing Activity

Forgiveness is not easy but it is a choice that we can make every day. We can’t experience all that God has for us in our marriage until we let go of past hurts. What is a past hurt that you need to let go of today?

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, we thank you for the forgiveness you have poured out on us through your Son Jesus Christ. It is because of his love and forgiveness that we can forgive and love others. We pray that you would give us the grace we need to extend forgiveness to others and the strength we need to let go of past hurts. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Peacemakers General
Craig Groeschel

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Peacemakers
Craig Groeschel

So many of our homes are not characterized by peace but rather by tension, strife, or conflict. Oftentimes we try to be the peacekeeper in our homes by ignoring issues or sweeping them under the rug, but God says blessed are the peacemakers, not peacekeepers. Today, Pastor Craig Groeschel talks about four characteristics of a peacemaker.

Goal of this Week

This week we are talking about what Jesus really means when he says blessed are the peacemakers.

Conversation Starter

Can you give an example of a time that you have had to be the peacekeeper?

Discussion Questions

  1. How is a peacekeeper different from a peacemaker?
  2. How do we tell the truth in love?
  3. What would your relationships look like if you confessed your sins and asked for forgiveness? What would that require from you to do that?
  4. Think of a time that someone has shown you forgiveness?

Closing Activity

Forgiveness is hard, but that is what Christ calls us to do as His followers. Relationships cannot experience connection and healing until we extend and receive forgiveness. Let’s break up into groups of two or three to pray for healing and restoration in any relationship that needs it.

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, we thank you for the forgiveness you have poured out on us through your Son Jesus Christ. It is because of his love and forgiveness that we can forgive and love others. We pray that you would give us the grace we need to extend forgiveness to others and the strength we need to let go of past hurts. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Week 3 - Honest Communication

Skills For Positive Communication In Marriage Married
Jimmy Evans

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Skills for Positive Communication in Marriage
Jimmy Evans

Communication is so important in relationships. You can’t know a person without communication. It’s how we understand the other person’s heart, how we talk through problems. It’s how we resolve issues and talk about needs. In marriage, the enemy is always trying to violate and cut the communication lines between spouses because he knows how powerful our communication is. In this message, Jimmy Evans debunks misconceptions about communication and gives us five standards of communication.

Goal of this Week

This week we will discuss the importance of communication in marriage.

Conversation Starter

Think of a great couple that you look up to and admire. What makes their marriage great?

Discussion Questions

  1. What is your daily communication like with your spouse?
  2. Jimmy said that you cannot communicate with a person who doesn’t care. What do you need from your spouse to know that they care?
  3. Truth without mercy is mean. Mercy without truth is meaningless. What does it look like to speak the truth with mercy?

Closing Activity

The power of life and death are in the mouth. Like Jimmy, sometimes we are not aware of the ways in which we are speaking to those closest to us. Take time now and throughout this week to reflect on your words and identify one way that you can move from death to life in your words.

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank you for the marriages represented in this group. We pray that your blessing would be on each marriage represented. Thank you for our spouses. We ask for the grace to speak life over our marriages and spouse. Give us wisdom to see where we can bring life to our marriage through better communication. Help us to speak the truth with mercy and to know how to best communicate with each other. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Remote Controlled General
Andy Stanley

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Remote Controlled
Andy Stanley

The one thing that keeps us from celebrating others, admitting you were wrong, asking for help, or learning new things and causes you to feel good when others fail, lie about your past, or argue with others. So what is that one thing that leads to every other vice? We’re going to talk about what it is and how to kill it.

Goal of this Week

This week we are going to discuss the one sin that keeps us from meaningful relationships with God and others, pride.

Conversation Starter

Thinking about our culture, do we tend to reward pride or humility? How so?

Discussion Questions

  1. How does pride manifest in you?
  2. What does pride look like in you? Confidence? Intelligence? Sarcasm? Perfection? Something else?
  3. Andy says that the invitation to follow Jesus is an invitation to unfollow pride. How so?
  4. How does pride get in the way of communication? What do you need to do to have better communication?

Closing Activity

Read Philippians 2:5-8. What was Christ’s mindset? What are practical steps you can take this week to have the same mindset as Christ in your relationships with others?

Closing Prayer

God, forgive us for the times that pride has kept us for you and others. We confess that we have given pride the remote control of our lives. We want to follow your way of living Jesus. We need your help to kill the pride in our hearts and walk in humility before you and others. Thank you that your grace and love is enough for us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Week 4 - Honor / Unity

Never Give Up Married
Craig Groeschel

Never Give Up
Craig Groeschel

We were made for relationships, but successful relationships don’t happen accidentally. Often, culture teaches us if we marry the right person, everything will be all right. But that gets us into trouble. In this message, Andy Stanley gives us a list of behaviors that will help lead to successful relationships, and he asks us the important question: Are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for?

Goal of this Week

Are you the person the person you’re looking for is looking for? In this message, Andy Stanley breaks down the myth that says we are supposed to find the right person by challenging us to become the right person instead.

Conversation Starter

Think of current movies, music, or TV shows. What would you say are some current rules in our culture regarding love, sex, and dating?

Discussion Questions

  1. What is the right person myth? Do you agree that it is a myth?
  2. How have you seen this way of thinking play out in relationships?
  3. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. These are the characteristics that build successful relationships. Which characteristic is most difficult for you? Which do you value the most in others?

Closing Activity

Becoming the person the person you’re looking for is looking for takes hard work and real effort. But you don’t want to find yourself married and unprepared. What is one thing you can do this week to help yourself become the right person?

Closing Prayer

God, thank you that you not only created us for relationships, but that you want us to have successful and fulfilling relationships. Help us to let go of the right person myth and the search to find the right person. And as we take steps to become the right person, we ask that your love would be what guides us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

It Is Good For A Man Not To Have Sexual Relations With A Woman General/Young Adult
Steven Furtick

It Is Good For A Man Not To Have Sexual Relations With A Woman
Steven Furtick

We were made for relationships, but successful relationships don’t happen accidentally. Often, culture teaches us if we marry the right person, everything will be all right. But that gets us into trouble. In this message, Andy Stanley gives us a list of behaviors that will help lead to successful relationships, and he asks us the important question: Are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for?

Goal of this Week

Are you the person the person you’re looking for is looking for? In this message, Andy Stanley breaks down the myth that says we are supposed to find the right person by challenging us to become the right person instead.

Conversation Starter

Think of current movies, music, or TV shows. What would you say are some current rules in our culture regarding love, sex, and dating?

Discussion Questions

  1. What is the right person myth? Do you agree that it is a myth?
  2. How have you seen this way of thinking play out in relationships?
  3. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. These are the characteristics that build successful relationships. Which characteristic is most difficult for you? Which do you value the most in others?

Closing Activity

Becoming the person the person you’re looking for is looking for takes hard work and real effort. But you don’t want to find yourself married and unprepared. What is one thing you can do this week to help yourself become the right person?

Closing Prayer

God, thank you that you not only created us for relationships, but that you want us to have successful and fulfilling relationships. Help us to let go of the right person myth and the search to find the right person. And as we take steps to become the right person, we ask that your love would be what guides us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Week 5 - Fear / Insecurity

Power Down General
Andy Stanley

Power Down
Andy Stanley

We were made for relationships, but successful relationships don’t happen accidentally. Often, culture teaches us if we marry the right person, everything will be all right. But that gets us into trouble. In this message, Andy Stanley gives us a list of behaviors that will help lead to successful relationships, and he asks us the important question: Are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for?

Goal of this Week

Are you the person the person you’re looking for is looking for? In this message, Andy Stanley breaks down the myth that says we are supposed to find the right person by challenging us to become the right person instead.

Conversation Starter

Think of current movies, music, or TV shows. What would you say are some current rules in our culture regarding love, sex, and dating?

Discussion Questions

  1. What is the right person myth? Do you agree that it is a myth?
  2. How have you seen this way of thinking play out in relationships?
  3. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. These are the characteristics that build successful relationships. Which characteristic is most difficult for you? Which do you value the most in others?

Closing Activity

Becoming the person the person you’re looking for is looking for takes hard work and real effort. But you don’t want to find yourself married and unprepared. What is one thing you can do this week to help yourself become the right person?

Closing Prayer

God, thank you that you not only created us for relationships, but that you want us to have successful and fulfilling relationships. Help us to let go of the right person myth and the search to find the right person. And as we take steps to become the right person, we ask that your love would be what guides us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.